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‘Vaginal Fisting’ leaves me fearful for future

‘Vaginal Fisting’ leaves me fearful for future

MY boyfriend and I love to play sex games, and recently he put his fingers in me, then very slowly pushed his entire fist in.

I didn’t realise what he was doing and though the fist was a bit uncomfortable at first, it felt good – so good that I had an orgasm.

It was only after that he showed me how his entire hand was inside of me. I felt really embarrassed because I could not believe that I could be so wide. But now I am scared of the future because I’m 22 and have no children, and am so wide, I can’t help but wonder when I have children what down there will be like. Is there anything I can do to ensure I don’t get too wide? –

Big Problem

 

Dear Big Problem,

First of all, you are quite normal, and in some ways it’s a compliment to him that you were able to relax sufficiently to allow him to do this so gently.

He was able to do that because you are young, flexible, and you felt incredibly comfortable, safe and secure with him while he relaxed you superbly in order to get more than just a little finger inside you.

We can only do this when we are extremely comfortable with ourselves, and also feel very safe with our partner.

Not all women relax this much and that’s quite normal for them. I don’t want men, though, getting a complex if their partner won’t allow them to copy his style.

As you get older, and perhaps not so interested in experimenting for novelty purposes, you may not relax this much (though you may well continue to do so).

But if you want to do such things, your insides aren’t going to fall out and you won’t drop your baby when you are pregnant in future because of expandable muscles, until you are due to deliver and are actually pushing. The vagina is designed to expand and will expand even further when you deliver a baby in future.

Good pelvic floor muscle tone is another good thing for all women to encourage, and if the two of you continue to practice this form of intimacy, you may get some extra fun if you regularly do your pelvic muscle exercises (without moving your buttocks, pretend to stop yourself from passing urine.

Repeat this sensation about 20 times on a regular basis and you muscle tone will increase and your sexual grip of him, on penetration, will be increased (which he will also enjoy in return).

If your buttocks move at all, you’re exercising the wrong set of muscles! Give it a go, you may even enjoy it enough that you manage to reach an orgasm this way, too. Seriously!

Hope this helps, and that you continue to have safe fun.

 

(item first published in Better Health Magazine, Barbados)

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