Premature ejaculation is a very common experience.
It has been defined by Masters & Johnson – the US sex therapists, who pioneered sex therapy and research – to be when on at least 50% of occasions ejaculation happens before the partner is satisfied !
Others define it as being when the man ejaculates within 1 to 2 minutes of penetration.
Whatever the definition, if you are worried, or your partner is regularly dissatisfied, you should seek help.
In the 1950s, 75% of men surveyed by the US therapist, Kinsey, reported ejaculation within 2 minutes of penetration. Now more emphasis is placed on ‘staying power’ and on partner communication.
Mind over matter can work wonders – and many men can control their ejaculation for considerable lengths of time by concentrating on something completely unsexy – eg. mental arithmetic, DIY tasks, or car mechanics !
If thinking of something else during penetration to distract yourself, doesn’t work or induces anxiety, you and your partner could try the squeeze technique which can gradually recondition your mind into delaying ejaculation.
When, at the plateau stage of stimulation, you – or your partner – can squeeze the glans penis at the frenulum with two fingers, to make your erection subside.
However, this needs practice and other techniques are also taught by registered sex therapists.